It's probably easier to find other goths when you're still in school, or if you go to clubs on a frequent basis (assuming you're not the only one in your town/area). However, for those of us who took the longer road, and for those who don't live in goth-friendly places or have much opportunity to club, it's a bit of a challenge. Since my search for like-minded souls is still very much ongoing, I thought this would make a good topic.
In the 15 years I've lived in this particular city, I think I've seen a total of two goths, and I'm only absolutely positive about one. One was at a public bus stop with her friends, so I was hesitant to just say hello out of the blue, especially since I wasn't quite sure if she actually was goth. The other one I've seen twice walking down the street while I was riding on a bus going the other way. Both were either high school or early college age, so I'm old enough to be their mother. ::SIGH::
Since obviously this town is NOT a big haven for goths, I've had to look elsewhere to meet them. I joined a local goth meetup goup about a year ago, but had limited success as I wasn't able to attend many of the events, and several I could have gone to were cancelled due to venue and/or participation problems. Fortunately, participation is starting to pick up again, so I'm giving it another shot. (For meetup groups in your area, check out: http://www.meetup.com )
I also began searching the internet for goth blogs to give me ideas about what the subculture is like today (as opposed to the 80s and 90s), and for info on clothes, makeup, hair, and all the usual things we obssess about. ;-) While most of the bloggers I've found are in other states or even countries, I was lucky enough to join a penpal group that one of them started, so I'm now at least able to correspond with new goth friends on a more personal level than just comments in a public blog.
Clubs are still a possible venue for meeting people, although it's hard to actually MEET someone in a dark room with music blasting constantly that you have to scream over if you want to talk. My husband and I went to one in San Francisco last year, and we did have a good time, but didn't meet anyone. The closest I came to actually meeting people was in the bathroom while exchanging funny comments with a couple of women at the sinks! But the 'local' goth clubs here are all 40-60 minutes or more away from home for me, and while I'm lucky to be THAT close to several, it's hard when most of them meet on weeknights or Sunday nights. It's extremely difficult to get up and go to work the next day with Club Fog Brain! I'm definitely NOT as young as I used to be...
So, what I'd like to know is what other ways there might be to meet local goths. Any suggestions?? How did YOU meet your friends? Inquiring minds would love to know.