Have
you ever had one of those days when everything in your whole life feels
like crap, and all you want to do is run screaming and throw yourself
off the nearest cliff into the sea?? Well, last Monday was one of those
days. Tuesday wasn't great, either; in fact, I took a sick day on
Tuesday so that I wouldn't totally lose it at work like I wanted to do
on Monday.
I'm totally frustrated with my job and my
life right now, and have been for almost five years, ever since I got my
MA and started looking for a job that would make me eager to get up in
the mornings. As of today, I'm still in the same job, making the same
salary, and with the same prospects for something better. And now this whole losing my office thing. It SUCKS.
And I'm tired of it.
I've been thinking (endlessly) of how to get out of this gods-awful professional rut that I'm in. I want to DO something with my anthropology degree, but it appears there is no room for me in the museum world, at least not around here. And forget going to Egypt, at least for quite some time!! So, where to go?? What to do???
After quite a bit more thought, I've come up with an idea; rather vague as of yet, but at least it IS an idea. Combining my fascination with death, mummies, cemeteries, and anthropology in general sums up to something I've only heard about recently: mortuary archaeology.
Death is such a subjective and emotional subject for most people in our society, and so many people refuse to prepare in advance for it, especially if they are healthy; they put it off indefinitely, insisting that they will have "plenty of time". Because of this, way too many arrangements have to be made by grieving relatives at practically a moment's notice, when they are still shocked and grieved by a death they may or may not have expected. Mortuaries and funeral homes charge high prices for making dead people look enough like they aren't dead that the mourners can pretend their loved ones are "just sleeping", as well as for services such as embalming and expensive padded caskets that most people feel are either required or "expected", whether they actually ARE or not. But mortuaries also perform very necessary services, burying or cremating bodies and keeping the records of the deaths as required by law, and they steer the grieving family through the legal morass of red tape required. Perhaps both sides could use some help that they are not currently receiving.
Mortuary archaeology is the study of death rituals in various societies, of how people bury their dead and how they express their grief. I ordered (and just received) three books on various aspects of mortuary archaeology, and I'm going to immerse myself in them and see if I can't come up with one or more ideas on how to possibly become a bridge between mortuaries and those who use their services, hopefully meeting needs on one or both sides that aren't being met by the status quo. It's all very tenuous as yet, and I'm not sure what (if anything) will come of it, but we'll see how things progress.
At least I'm no longer fighting the urge to run screaming...
It sounds like a good plan; but in the meanwhile, you can still add a bit of Goth to you current office space. Maybe that will make you a bit more comfortable in the meanwhile.
ReplyDeleteOh, yes, I'm definitely still going to "dark up" my office, no matter what! In fact, I've already started by removing some things and making room for others. I'm hoping to have quite a bit done before any actual moving may take place, so I can literally just walk things across the hall from one room to the other, if that does happen. Thanks for thinking of that. :-)
Deletethat would be an amazing job. i know what it's like when life gets you down. if you can, i find going out into the forest for a while, or just any place natural, can really help recharge your batteries and renew your hope for the future. i don't believe there's a being on this earth that can't benefit from spending time in nature. just a suggestion. :-)
ReplyDeleteYou know, we are a LOT alike! I definitely love going somewhere in nature to recharge and get perspective, and fortunately we have a regional park just a short way from our apartment, out past the cemetery. The ocean is also a great place for me to recharge, it just takes longer to get there now that I don't live in San Francisco anymore! And if I really can't go off anywhere, there's always my garden; it's tiny, but it's got a tree and my own personal plants, and that does help as well. :-)
DeleteYay for you!!! I am going to be a Forensic Pathologist. I am currently working on an associates degree in forensic investigation but I plan on getting a doctorate.
ReplyDeleteThanks! And yay for YOU, good luck!! That's a tough job, but worth it. I couldn't do it, because while I LOVE dry old bones, I don't like fresh wet ones! ;-)
DeleteI think it's a brilliant idea, Lucretia! As somebody who totally went overboard on the spending for my mom's funeral (due to guilt or whatever), I think that would be a wonderful service to offer. Help the bereaved get past all that emotional baggage and make sensible decisions about what is really necessary and what isn't. :o)
ReplyDeleteThanks! :-)
DeleteI'm fortunate in that my mom has already made (and paid for) all her arrangements, all I will have to do is make the necessary phone calls. I'm sorry you had that experience, it must have been really tough in more ways than one. That's exactly one of the things I want to help people avoid!